today, i had a chance to chat with one of my girl friends even when i was very busy at work. she somewhat asked me what she's into as she was expressing how confused she is towards a guy. sometimes she feels something for this guy and sometimes she just doesn't. at the end, she concluded herself that she's not in love with him but just felt attracted. well, she's not the first one i knew that's confused towards a guy; and she's not the first one that i know of having an on/off feelings towards a guy either. this "love or attraction" debate has already been so common among my girl friends including me. for some reason, i want to disagree to what she said that she's only attracted to this guy. perhaps i'm just tired of hearing girls saying "it's probably just attraction" when she's already head over heels into him. i believe that girls fall in love to some extent when she couldn't stop thinking of him for the longest time but just keeps denying it so not to get hurt - because i know i do; and same rule applies with guys. instead of telling her that i disagree of what she claims to be "just an attraction" and not love, i told her what i think of when to know a person is in love:

"a person only admits he/she is in love to another person if the other person admitted that he/she is in love with him/her."

does it make sense? i think that most people try it hard to deny themselves of being in love primarily because they don't know what the other party feels for them and so to avoid of getting hurt. nobody, in both parties, will know that they're in love with each other unless someone will admit that he/she is in love with the other. taking into account the least people, they would sincerely deny what they feel about love simply because of how they define what love is for them. well... i think it's another story. being in love is different from defining what love is and even way different from defining what true love is. i can still remember when i was still in 4th grade. little girl as i was, i'd define love like a bubble gum:

"when you chew, it sticks like a glue; it cannot be taken off easily and it will drive you crazy."

it sounds better saying it in my mother language. hahaha. as my friend and i continued chatting, we arrived on defining what true love is. i just realize that what she felt of "not feeling love" is partly true. i felt like i wasn't myself when saying this: "in the eyes of God, what you feel right now really isn't love because love for Him is unconditional. since you can't admit that you're in love with this guy because you're not sure whether he will love you too, then, that my friend is an example of a conditional love." my christian friends would always remind me that there is no greater love than our Father's love when He died on that cross - now this is true unconditional love. love is something we can randomly feel in a day but true love is something we look forward to having for the rest of our life.

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Comments (2)

• | 2010-04-16 10:52:39 Rita  - nice article,i like it
  may i know you

• | 2010-04-16 11:03:45 prettynerd  - thank you!
  im glad you like my blog.. im a computer geekette from philippines!

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