"we prefer to have more options", quoting a friend as he was explaining why boys are afraid of commitment - marriage, that is. they would miss out on something better if they don't keep their options open. he meant that making a commitment will most likely affect other options and so there will be less options left for them to have. this lead me to think which set of options was he talking about? do girls also have the same set of options? how do girls handle their options? let us take boys and girls in general for this context. age bracketing or difference in maturity level shouldn't matter. boys equals men equals the male species; girls equals women equals the female race. just to identify what options we are talking about, here are few examples of major deciding factors that are common to all: - study in a university - apply for a job - earn a promotion - travel somewhere - buy a house - buy a car - get married - have children - put up your own business - retire one night, i had a dinner date with one of my girl friends. we talked about what girls usually talk about. not "boys" for your information! we usually talk about matters of the heart, well, for this particular girl friend only. hahaha. we had a lot of heart-to-heart discussions but to make my story short, we finished off discussing "boys and commitments". yah, yah, "boys" always get in to our conversation. hahaha. and so, the question "why is it hard for boys to get married?" surfaced. i've known this boy since freshmen high school. we've been exclusively dating for eight years. and now, both of us have stable jobs. what else does he need to get married? actually, he fears that we might not be able to feed our children, or provide shelter, or provide luxury, blah blah blah. whaaat?! i'm asking marriage, not children or luxury!!! arrrgh. this really upset me. he wants to save money first to buy a house, then buy a car, then buy whatever he wanted to buy before getting married. so when can he get married then? after 30 years of age? does it matter if we get married first then save both of our income to buy a house, then buy a car, then plan whatever comes next? i wanted to get married because i think that it's about time for me to spend planning my life with him already. sad to say, we broke up. oh yes, it hurts! but i'm thankful that i came to a realization and developed a spiritual growth before i can actually decide to get married. hearing these from me, my girl friend gave me a new explanation why it's hard for boys to commit on marriage - new to my ears that made sense. she compared girls over boys handling options and making decisions. she exclaimed that girls can do multi-tasking while boys cannot, because boys are compartmentalized. i expect you boys would react to this article that's why i opened my blog for comments. ehehe. feel free to react violently but sweetly. ehehe. so, what does compartmentalize mean? googling it would give you:

compartmentalize - to separate into distinct parts, categories, or compartments; eg. "you learn... even the ability to compartmentalize ethics" (ellen goodman).

"boys tend to compartmentalize his options and decide on them individually one step at a time", this is my girl friend saying, not me, so don't be harsh to me! ehehe. well, you know what? i agree with her! boys handle his options like distinct stages in his life. girls doesn't do it that way. girls can handle more than one option in one time; for instance, she studies in a university while making an income and still have the time to hangout with friends and travel somewhere during the weekend, or she works hard in the office while taking care of her husband and her children. boys are just so afraid to do these things altogether - fearing that one option could affect the other. boys keep their options like medicines in a pill dispenser. he will take one medicine from one spot of the dispenser, drink water, take another medicine, then again drink water, and so on. however, girls just swallow everything from the pill dispenser and drink water. boys say, "we have priorities." girls say, "we have too!" boys just handle priorities like tickets queued up and serve which comes first. girls have the same tickets, but she handles it like cards making a hand in a poker game. boys make sure that his first ticket in line will be served first before jumping to the next one and prefers to wait for the current ticket to finish it's round of service to arrive in a successful outcome. girls, on the other hand, can shuffle her tickets, serve more than one ticket at a time, and can still achieve a successful outcome. this is a fact! hahaha. again, the comment box below is for your violent yet sweet reaction. ehehe. i'm not saying that having a compartmentalized thinking is a bad thing. i mean, girls should sometimes think the same way also. it's just that, when taking options one at a time, one may missed out opportunities. going back to what my other friend said, "we would miss out on something better if we don't keep our options open," - what if there's no more far better than the option you have now? do you still have to compartmentalize your options and take your steps one after the other? boys.

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